As a human being we are born with number of responsibilities which we cannot escape. So it’s better we accept them whole heartedly rather than complaining. Especially when you want to be the best teen in front of all. Here I’ve given few tips on how to be a responsible teenager and have a healthy relation with your parents + surroundings.
1. Take Authority for Minor Daily Chores
Mother always expects that we help her in the daily chores. She might shout every morning on you to make the bed, water the plants or anything else. What you can do is, if she tells you to do 10 tasks a day which you can hardly manage, take authority of atleast 7 to 8 tasks out them and finish the same regularly and religiously.
2. Become a Support When Needed
Sometimes parents get exhausted after a long tough day. So instead of demanding to cook fancy dinner for you, if you cannot cook, ask them cook something quick and easy. This was a very small example of support, you can be a backbone by helping them when they are unhealthy, even becoming a support for your friend can help you out on being a responsible teenager.
3. Always Listen to Everyone and Do the Best for You
If an elder gives you a piece of advice, always listen to them because it is not them who’s speaking, it is their experience speaking. Also don’t listen and follow them blindly, rather evaluate and take the best out of all. This ability will help you to take from small to crucial decisions all your life.
4. Try Not to Misuse Your Freedom
Freedom is something that can get the best or the worst out of you. This is something told or felt by most of you out there. But yes it is really true. If you start misusing your freedom, you are surely going to enjoy for the short-term but it will have a damaging effect over the long-term. Enjoy your freedom but try not to misuse it.
5. Avoid Being Part of Wrong Deeds
Responsible deeds do not stop at your parents or the surrounding but you should be responsible to yourself also. You should know what is good for you and what is not. Mocking or ragging someone can give you nothing but a blink of you being superior to others, which is completely opposite to the truth.
6. Understand the Generation Gap
We as youngsters always fail to understand that there is a generation gap and it is going to exist, you won’t be able to do anything against it. We many a times blame our parents for not understanding us, but the reality is they try their best to understand us but they cannot understand where are we going heading. So it becomes our responsibility to understand them and make them understand, before we start losing each other.
My Personal Experience on Becoming a Responsible Teenager
I, being part of a not so modern Jain Gujarati family, responsibilities are inherited. I waved off my teenage life nearly a month ago. Before that something happened which changed my attitude towards responsibilities and teenage life.
Before that, let me give you a brief background of the situation. My father was in another city for his project, my elder brother in USA. My mother was having 14 months fast (Yes, I know seems too long but Jain Fasts tend to be long), while it was just me and mom alone at home for 4 months.
This was the time when my learning started. As there was no one else at home, mom used to call me out for some or the other work every 15 minutes. I used to get annoyed for making me stand from studying now and then. But as days passed I started to understand her, she needed help, she needed a support being alone. She stays hungry though out the day but makes sure I get something delicious to eat.
Our bond grew, I came to know more about the generation gap we faced, why we feel and see things differently, then I started trying to mould the thoughts of mine as well as my mother into what the other generation thinks. WHY? The strong reason behind that was they come to know that they are not living in an unknown world and the thoughts can be understood by other – vice versa.
Also read: Is Today’s Teenager Responsible Enough?
Parents avoid talking about their personal issues with the children, so we as children need into enter their mind, heart and words to understand them. They feel that they are losing us, so we need to make the strings tight. You might think why us, why no they?
The answer is they were there with us always; it was us who was trying to get away from the questions and responsibility given to us.
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